ABC’s of Funeral and Sympathy Flower Etiquette!

ABC's of Funeral and Sympathy Flower Etiquette!One of the hardest times in anyone’s life is during the grieving process. Losing a spouse, family member or friend is a time of hardship. Sending a floral arrangement shows support, love, and kind thoughts. However, since flowers have been used to say many things you will want to read up on bereavement etiquette to ensure you do not send the wrong message!

For example, do not send flowers directly to the cemetery on the day of the funeral. The reason is simple – the intention is to be a comfort, not to disturb the in-progress funeral by having a florist drive up. This is an easy way to turn your meaningful gesture into a rude one!

There are some other important considerations, such as not sending the arrangement to the church. Instead, send your gift to the funeral home so that it can arrive in time for the event. Local florists are great for this, and there are always a few available.

Eternity WreathRemember that timing is everything, so if your arrangement cannot make it in time for the funeral, wake, or viewing, then send your floral arrangement to the home of the next of kin, like the parents, widow or eldest surviving child. Arrangements that arrive after the funeral are great sources of comfort while the family is still grieving. Send a message of sympathy when they need it most!

If you are unfamiliar with the family of the departed, or have not seen the deceased in a good deal of time then be sure to include a note with your name and, if applicable, your relationship to the deceased.

Flowers are the most appropriate gift for a funeral and sympathy, wake, or while a person is still grieving for their loved one. The most often sent arrangements in these sad cases are funeral wreaths. Florists can help you select the proper display that is both respectful and beautiful. Use small colorful blooms to spell out names or messages. Such wreaths are appropriate at the funeral, wake, and can be left at the grave afterwards.

Sometimes floral arrangements can be made into specific shapes, such as crosses. Normally these would be made with vivid carnations and pale roses. If the deceased was religious then these are some of the most appropriate offerings you can give. Florists can often craft other shapes, too, so ask and see what they can come up with for you!

For a sizable arrangement consider a funeral spray. These are bunches of flowers that can act as funeral decor, especially to accompany the easel used to showcase a photograph of the deceased. Add funeral sprays to banners to create a memorable celebration. Some of such arrangements are costly, but if multiple people go in on them together they are far more reasonable.

Another great gift is floral funeral gift baskets. These can sit on the altar, around the casket, or be sent directly to the bereaved’s home. Plus, even after the flowers are gone the wonderful basket remains. If you intend to send fresh flowers do so with a basket, as flowers in vases are not considered an appropriate sympathy gift (they are for happy occasions).

No matter what you give, every floral arrangement is a sign of your condolences. Show your support by giving a beautiful and respectful arrangement, while also honoring the deceased. It is a small way to show your deep sympathies.

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13 Responses to “ABC’s of Funeral and Sympathy Flower Etiquette!”

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  • Mehdi:

    It would have supported the relatives at such a difficult time.

    • Cristy:

      Especially when there is no opportunity to come and support personally

  • Rachel:

    It’s important to send a special gift of love and warm thoughts. I hope these sad moments will not happen soon.

  • Josh:

    i have never sent such baskets, hope this will not be necessary

  • Snail:

    I know that there will be enough flowers and I’d rather give them something more practical.

    • Baldo:

      people give a small donation to a charity

  • Delia:

    I am thinking about a gift which the family could keep, such as a nice photo frame to put a special photo.

    • Cissy:

      Friends of ours have given us a photo frame and others have given us a plant and fruit trees.

      • Delia:

        I think it is a lovely idea to buy something they will really treasure and will last rather than flowers.

    • Helen:

      I personally think it is a good idea. Unfortunately flowers do die and suddenly the house looks empty again, but there your photo frame will be.

      • Delia:

        Thank you everyone for your replies!!! I wasn’t sure what to do or give because I’ve never been to a funeral before. I think flowers are lovely, but I would like to give something they can keep.

  • Shari Cunningham:

    Flowers are the most popular gift for any occasion. Because flowers are the only way through which we can express our feeling

  • xbox:

    I like the helpful info you provide in your articles.

    I’ll bookmark your blog and check again here frequently.

    I’m quite sure I’ll learn many new stuff right here!
    Good luck for the next!

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